Okay, maybe not “essentials.” When it comes down to it, very
little is essential. And this list is for both babies and toddlers, not just
for “tots.” But it was too cumbersome to title this post “Items that Make It a
Lot Easier to Haul Your Infant or Toddler Around the World,” so I fudged a
little.
Recently a friend who shares my lifestyle started asking
questions. She and her husband are thinking about expanding their family, and
she’s wondering how to prepare for the addition of a child into their globally
nomadic lifestyle. Specifically, she’s asked what gear I recommend. After taking
my now-15-month-old daughter on four transatlantic journeys (two of them
without my husband), one transpacific journey, and a few state-to-state flights—not
to mention six months (and counting!) of living overseas with her—I have a few
suggestions.
First things first: A car
seat really is essential. Not just for in the car, either. You may want to
save money by not buying an airline ticket for your under-two-year-old. You may
have visions of Baby nestled contentedly in your arms, the two of you happily
snuggling while you sleep away the 8-hour transatlantic flight, or the 11-hour
transpacific one. But somehow it usually doesn’t work out that way. It’s much
more comfortable—not to mention safer—for everyone if Baby is nestled snugly in
his or her car seat instead of in your lap. Don’t get me wrong; take the child
out of the car seat for a change of position and for some cuddling, especially
on those long flights when you both get restless. But for takeoff and landing,
for turbulence, for meal service, for those times when you just need a little
space, do yourself a favor: buy your child a ticket and take the car seat on
the plane. Just do your due diligence first—make sure the seat is FAA approved (it’ll
have a sticker on it) and that it
meets your airline’s requirements. For example, KLM’s maximum width requirement
had me running out to buy a smaller seat before my post-evacuation journey back
to Egypt, even though my larger seat is FAA approved. Avoid problems at the
airport by checking with your airline and making sure your seat meets their
requirements.
Car seat with Gogo attached |
I know what you’re thinking: how are you going to haul that
seat around the airport, especially if you’re traveling without another adult?
If your child is still in one of those infant carrier-car seat combos, it’s
easy—take a stroller or cart designed for your seat to snap
into it. Some of the strollers are large and expensive, but also available are
smaller, less expensive carts. If your child is in a convertible car seat, I
recommend the Gogo Babyz Kidz Travelmate cart. I
never would have made it back to Egypt after the evacuation with Alexa, her car
seat, and our carryons if I hadn’t had this contraption. It’s basically a frame
with two wheels and a telescoping handle. It attaches to the car seat easily
and quickly. You can wheel your child through the airport as if it was a
stroller, or take the child out and haul the seat behind you. Every time I’ve
used it (five multiple-flight journeys now), random strangers in the airport
have admired it and/or asked me about it. Flight attendants start to protest as
I take it on the plane (“No strollers allowed!”), but a quick “The wheels pop
off and the handle goes down; it’s just her car seat” silences the objections.
I am a walking, talking, unpaid advertisement for this thing—I love it, and I
recommend it to anyone who is taking a car seat through an airport, train station,
or anywhere else where your car can’t go.
Wrap. Photo courtesy Amazon.com |
What about transporting your child when you don’t need a car
seat—when you’re on foot? Although strollers work quite well in the States,
they don’t always work so well overseas, at least not in the third-world
countries where we’ve lived. Where sidewalks exist, they’re often unusable for
strollers—they’re riddled with potholes; random signs and other obstacles are
placed right in the middle of the path; and overgrown trees
Mei tai. Photo courtesy Amazon.com |
and shrubs often make
them impassable on foot, much less with a stroller. Combine the poor sidewalks
with unpredictable drivers, and it really isn’t safe for strollers. It’s safer,
and in many cases easier, to use a baby carrier instead. Carriers allow you to attach an infant or toddler to your
body, with the child’s weight distributed between your shoulders and hips
rather than on your arms, so you don’t tire as quickly and you can use your
hands for other things. There are different styles of carriers, including
structured and unstructured options. My favorite is a wrap, because it’s the
most versatile, although I’m also a fan of mei tais. You should use whatever
style of carrier is most comfortable for both you and your child. If you don’t
know the first thing about baby carriers or how to choose one, just do an
internet search for “baby wearing.” I promise you’ll find all the information
you need!
At some point while you’re out and about with your child,
you’ll probably get hungry. You may even decide to go out specifically to eat.
In the States, going to a restaurant with your child really isn’t that big of a
Booster seat |
deal—almost every restaurant has high chairs and booster seats, even if they
aren’t particularly child-oriented restaurants. Overseas, that is not always
the case. Eating out often means eating with a child in your lap, and that can
be both uncomfortable and embarrassing at times. I’m pretty sure one restaurant
owner in Egypt purchased a high chair because of the time when Alexa, while seated
in my lap, yanked on the table cloth, causing my water glass to tip over, hit
an ashtray, and shatter. So what’s a parent to do when you’re eating out in a
country where restaurants often don’t provide high chairs? Bring your own.
Don’t worry; I’m not insane enough to suggest that you bring the high chair
from your own kitchen or dining room—it’s almost certainly too difficult to
transport. Instead, bring a booster seat
that is designed to be strapped securely to most chairs. (I don’t recommend the
ones that attach to the table; those make me nervous.) Some even fold up and
zip into their own travel cases. For the sake of complete disclosure, let me
admit now that I don’t actually own one of these … yet. We currently are
borrowing one that doesn’t have its own travel case; we’re using it at home
until our shipment arrives with our high chair. I’d never even seen a travel
one until we were out at lunch a couple of days ago, and one of our companions
whipped one out for her son. I decided then and there that we’ll be ordering
one as soon as we get the internet set up at our house—it’ll probably be on its
way before this post is even published.
Finally, every child needs a safe place to sleep, and every
parent needs a safe place to deposit a child so
Mom or Dad can go to the
bathroom, wash the dishes, or switch out the laundry. In the States, this
function is fulfilled by a crib, playpen, or pack-and-play. Those options also
work well when you live overseas, but
Baby Bjorn Travel Crib |
what about when you’re vacationing, or
you’ve just moved but your shipment hasn’t arrived yet? Pack-and-plays are
designed for travel, so you would think that they would work well, but in my
experience, they’re often heavy or bulky, even when folded for travel. That
doesn’t work well when you’re flying! Our solution is the Baby Bjorn travel crib. It’s very lightweight, yet stable enough
that it won’t tip over easily. It folds into its own zippered case and can be a
carry-on item on many airlines, although some say it’s too big for that. I’ve
sent it on one overseas flight as a separate piece of checked baggage, and it
emerged unscathed; if you don’t have the baggage allowance for that, it will
fit into a large suitcase with a little room left over. It’s also incredibly
easy to set up and take down. It doesn’t have as much space as many
pack-and-plays, so it isn’t ideal for use as a primary playpen, but it’s
perfect as a short-term crib and playpen.
That’s it. That’s my list of highly recommended items for
traveling and/or living abroad with a little one. With the exception of the car
seat, I haven’t listed the things that are recommended for all parents—there
are enough of those lists out there. These few items are the extras that are
particularly relevant to expatriates. What do you think; did I miss something?
If so, tell me in the comments! I’m sure my friend, and other
heading-toward-parenthood expats, will be grateful.
Written Tuesday, 11
October 2011.
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